These five simple sentences will fix all your wedding-chit-chat woes.
“TELL ME MORE”: Small talk doesn’t need to stick to the surface. Dive beyond the basics by asking a follow-up question—you might even get a stock tip or some under-the-radar celeb gossip.
“ME TOO!”: Order the same drink? Roll your eyes at the same lame song the DJ just threw on? Don’t shy away from chiming in. Having a shared interest is the easiest way to ignite a conversation.
“IF YOU’LL EXCUSE ME…”: Thoughtful conversationalists pay attention in order to gracefully remove themselves from a chat before it becomes painful. If you notice shifty eye contact or someone glancing at their phone, best go freshen your drink.
“OH, HOW SO?”: We often fall into lazy conversation patterns. You mindlessly trot out the same funny story time and time again to score an easy laugh, but when someone digs a little deeper and makes you stop to think for a moment, a trite chat suddenly gets exciting.
“SO WHAT YOU’RE SAYING IS…”: Gently recapping what your new pal just said serves a double purpose: It shows them that you’re dialled into what they are saying and challenges you to truly listen.
This article first appeared in the June 2019 issue of ELLE Canada.
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