Reality check time! Are you really marriage-minded, or do you just want to have the gorgeous gown, the dream setting, and perfect cake? Take this quiz to find out where you stand on the issue of life-long commitment.

1. When you think of the reasons you want to get married, what do they include?

A) I am hoping to find a solid partner first and then to create a family and share our lives together.

B) A Vera Wang gown, pink tulips, and a Tiffany registry.

C) I’m not getting any younger!

2. When you think of your ring, what do you think about?

A) The person who loves you enough to give you a token of his affection, who cares about what it looks like; it’s what it means that counts.

B) Cut, colour, carats, and clarity — all set in platinum, thank you!

C) Give me on from the gumball machine; just sign the damn papers.

3. When your friend announces her engagement, what do you do?

A) Congratulate her on her exciting news. You know she’ll do the same when you meet the right guy.

B) Let her know where you think she should register.

C) Burst into tears and grab a bottle of cheap red wine on your way home to your cat.

4. You’re thirty-five years old and unmarried; how do you feel?

A) A little disappointed but glad you held out instead of settling.

B) Bummed; your dream sheath dress is so outdated now!

C) Devastated; you’re pretty sure you will never meet anyone at this age. It’s all over.

5. Your newly married best friend comes to you in tears. She thinks she made a mistake tying the knot. What do you do?

A) Tell her it’s perfectly normal to be a little nervous after the big day, but remind her that her happiness is ultimately important so, if it isn’t the right guy, there are more out there.

B) Tell her how sorry you are, but explain she will need to consider the fact that cream gowns don’t come in as many options as white ones do.

C) Get angry with her. How inconsiderate to complain after getting what you want so badly!

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Cinderella was a Liar by Brenda Della Casa Copyright (c) 2007 by Brenda Della Casa. Excerpted by permission of McGraw Hill. All rights reserved. No part of this excerpt may be reproduced or reprinted without permission in writing from the publisher.
6. What are you looking for in a mate?

A) Someone who shares your passions and has a good heart, a strong value system, and a hearty sense of humour.

B) Someone with a big enough trust fund to afford your dream wedding and your month-long honeymoon in Belize.

C) Someone with a pulse and a few strong sperm.

7. Your mom takes another swipe at your single status at dinner. What do you do?

A) Remind her that you have had a lot of dates but want a love affair as romantic as hers and your dad’s was.

B) You aren’t paying attention; you’re surfing Martha Stewart’s Weddings online for tips.

C) Say nothing; she’s right — you are an old maid.

How did you do?

Mostly As: Good for you; you’re a healthy, marriage-minded maiden. With a focus on the meaning of the day and the partner with whom you will share it, you don’t place unnecessary pressure on yourself or your relationships, instead opting to go with the flow of your romantic life and hold out for the best possible match. Think you are a sensible single? I do.

Mostly Bs: There is no denying it; you love weddings — the dress, the diamond, the flowers — but what about the marriage? Getting hitched is more than an evening in a white gown with a gorgeous veil; it’s a lifelong commitment to another person. Until you find that special someone who becomes a bigger incentive that your bridesmaid dresses, it’s best to keep your d-cut diamond a treasured daydream.

Mostly Cs: Weddings make you cry, but not for the right reasons. With a boatload of silly expectations and missed deadlines, you’re in a constant state of self-doubt. Marriage is the merging or two lives into one, and the more convince yourself you need to take what you can get, the less likely you are to merge with someone who will suit your lifestyle or even meet someone because you are sending out the sign that you are desperate and miserable. Take a step back, relax, and remember, this isn’t a competition; there is no race to getting down the aisle to the altar!

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Excerpted from
Cinderella was a Liar by Brenda Della Casa Copyright (c) 2007 by Brenda Della Casa. Excerpted by permission of McGraw Hill. All rights reserved. No part of this excerpt may be reproduced or reprinted without permission in writing from the publisher.