We know she’s all about that Big Girls Don’t Cry life, but if Fergie is feeling a little emosh at the moment, we’ll all forgive her. You see, the former Black Eyed Peas frontwoman and her husband are getting a divorce.

Ferg and Josh Duhamel actually separated early this year, but only decided to share the news with the world—via People—today. The announcement includes the expected “love and respect”, “united in our support of each other and our family”, and of course, the description of the divorce as a “private matter”. (All very lovely sentiments, let’s be clear).

The pair—who actually took to social back in January to celebrate their 8 years of marriage with idyllic family snaps in front of a California sunset—have a four year old named Axl.