Contrary to popular relationships advice, no amount of chocolate or wine is going to mend a broken heart. We’ve got the real scoop on how to recover—and find love again.
1) The stereotypical advice: Learn something new
Our first instinct post breakup (after crying our hearts out and drowning our sorrows at our favourite cocktail bar) is usually to embark on a personal self-improvement project.
Many of us seek out new hobbies, such as cooking or learning another language, to help us keep busy, move forward and satisfy that ‘I'll show them what they're missing out on' feeling.
However, while pursuing classes like this is admirable, we think that doing something completely unexpected is a better way to bounce back stronger than ever. We suggest instead that you...
ELLE Canada advice: Do something beyond your comfort zone
The reason a breakup rattles us so much (apart from the obvious heartbreak) is that our lives are suddenly no longer what we expected them to be. We are hurled, often quite mercilessly, into the great unknown when relationships end.
So we say why not embrace that unknown? Push yourself even further beyond your comfort zone so that it becomes an exciting and empowering place to be. Dive into something that will force you to conquer a fear while inspiring confidence, such as pole fitness or running a marathon.
Rather than tentatively sitting behind a desk in a classroom hoping the teacher doesn't call on you, do something that is active, assertive, gives you a certain thrill and makes you feel alive.
2) The stereotypical advice: Indulge in comfort food
As much as we love Bridget Jones, she would have us convinced that the cure for heartache is buried at the bottom of an ice cream container (or two!) Ladies, riddle me this: do we really need a lot of fatty junk foods on top of everything else we're dealing with? Surely our hearts are already heavy enough without adding a ton of empty calories to the situation and our bathroom scales. We suggest instead that you...
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