What would you change in your life, if you could? A new study has surprising results for women and men when it comes to relationship regrets and relationship problems.
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When it comes to life regrets, women tend to have relationship regrets, whereas men regret career choices according to a recent study published in Social Psychological and Personality Science.
The study conducted by Northwestern University’s Kellogg School of Management surveyed 370 adults at random and asked them what they regret in life. Men were more likely to mention a professional regret, whereas women were more likely to bring up relationship regrets.
However, the situation may not be as cut and dry as the study suggests. Another study published by Arizona State University, presents alternate evidence that suggests what women really regret is missed educational and career opportunities which were caused by a perceived lack of self-assertiveness.
It’s possible that the pressure to “have it all” – a successful career, marriage and children – is leading women to have more regrets and relationship problems in general. Unlike their older counterparts, women who are in their 20s, 30s and 40s have grown up with more opportunities available to them. The quest for the perfect balance between career and family means that many women take on an intricate juggling game which can lead to relationship problems. When one ball falls out of balance, this can often lead to regrets. This is made worse by popular culture that feeds into the illusion that “having it all” should come easy.
Relationship regrets happen when the fantasy of your life doesn’t line up with reality
Sonya* age 31, says her greatest regrets in life are all career-related. “I’m in a happy long term relationship and have a university education from a good school. However, I thought by now I would have my 'dream job.' I went to school believing that I would one day find a career that would be perfect for me. I thought by this age that all aspects of my life would be settled. I can’t help but look back at old mistakes and wonder what I could have done to change things.”
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