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Q: I was recently diagnosed with an STI, which I believe I contracted from my ex-boyfriend. At first my ex tried to be there for me, but he slowly began to pull away until a breakup was inevitable. I think I'm ready to move on with my life and find someone who is more suited to me and who will accept me as I am (STI and all). I'm trying not to be negative, but I don't feel too confident that a great guy is going to want to date someone with an STI. I could really use some insight. Do you see any hope for me?
- Hopeless
Dear Hopeless: You think that no one will want you, but I can assure you that you're wrong. You just have to be more cautious. Your boyfriend obviously didn't handle the STI news with a great deal of maturity. Instead, he bolted like a frightened horse! There are millions of people around the world who have STIs. I suspect that you have genital herpes. If this is the case, I think it's best to be honest with whomever you date since you're prone to outbreaks. Some guys will walk away, but that's how you'll know they're not for you. Over the next year, I think you'll find a new man who will be kind and understanding and who will admire you for being honest with him. Educate yourself about your condition: Find out what signs to watch for when an outbreak is about to occur, and then be cautious. Your dating life has not ended; it has just changed. You'll cope with it, and you'll go on to live a happy life. I'm sure that in the future, you'll meet someone who needs your insight and guidance on this issue. You'll learn from this experience, and it will make you stronger than you thought possible.
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