Improve your dating success

We’ve all heard stories—or worse, experienced it firsthand—about that girl who met a great guy and then found out he wasn’t quite single. Or about the blind date where the guy has completely misrepresented himself in his online profile. “People are increasingly becoming wary of the typical ways of approaching dating—online dating and speed dating, for example—the novelty period has passed,” says Kate Opashinov, an intuition teacher based in Toronto.

It’s partly due to these reasons Opashinov has seen an upsurge in the number of people taking her intuition courses as a way to improve their dating life. “People are feeling a need to have an internal mechanism that is more accurate than outsourcing the screening process to a third party that has a vested interest—given that you are paying that matchmaking company,” she says. “The business of dating has inspired people to take the power back into their own hands.”

What is intuition, though? It’s not about reading subtle physical cues that might reveal whether he is going to pay the bill or go for a goodnight kiss. “There’s a difference between reading body language and knowing what’s coming using your intuition,” says Opashinov, who’s been teaching intuition for more than 10 years in Toronto and at workshops held around the world. “Body language might confirm what you saw, but intuition involves figuring things out before you even go on the date,” she says. “Intuition is the ability to gather information from non-regular, unseen forces—you’re using a heightened level of awareness.”

Here’s how you can tap into your intuitive side:
• Before your date, set aside some time and find a quiet spot where you can relax, almost to the point where you’re feeling dozy.

• Ask yourself questions about your date, such as: What are his intentions? Does he want a serious, committed relationship? Will I be interested in a second date with him?

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