Dating men you might normally bypass could mean a shot at a love connection.
Dating can be a lot of fun but it can also be exhausting after one too many nights out that go nowhere. If you’ve been going out on date after date with no desire to get a call back from any of the men you’re meeting it could be time to date against type. The best way to get out of a dating rut is to focus your attention on people you might normally overlook. You never know where it could lead.
We asked April Masini, relationship expert behind the AskApril.com advice column and author of Think and Date Like a Man, for her dating tips on meeting someone outside of your comfort zone – and some important reasons why you should.
Dating tips: Your type has changed – and you don’t know it
Sometimes we decide who we should be with and discount the fact that we change and evolve over the years (or even months). “Who you thought you should be dating might have been right last year, but this year, with changes in your personality, lifestyle and goals, someone else entirely could be a better match,” Masini says. Think about who you dated ten years ago and who you date now. There is likely a fairly significant difference. “Dating outside our pre-conceived type may remind us that what we thought we needed in a man is no longer true.”
Dating tips: You could meet someone great
Automatically dismissing someone because they don’t fit into your type could mean you’re missing out on meeting someone great. “Chameleons abound,” says Masini. You may not normally look twice at a suit-wearing financial planner but he could be closer to your type than you realize. Maybe he actually shares your passion for hiking or weekend camping trips. “Just because he looks a certain way or even presents a certain way on first meeting doesn't mean he's the type you think he is,” she explains. That three-piece suit might just be part of his day job and not a good representation of his whole personality.
More dating tips and reasons you should date outside of your type on the next page…