Falling in love with someone else's man can be difficult. One writer explores how she dealt with unrequited love.
Have you ever been in love and felt the sting of rejection? For anyone who experiences unrequited love, the misery is usually accompanied by a great mystery. The type of love I’m talking about—the deep, true, all-encompassing kind—is only supposed to end up one way: happy. How can you feel so much for someone and then have it all amount to...nothing?
A tale of unrequited love
I remember the day I first met James in clear and vivid detail. We had been thrown together to collaborate on a three-month project, and I was nervous about working with people I’d never met before. Walking into the studio, I immediately spotted him: He was tall and wiry, with indie hair and directional eyewear, and dressed in a grey hoodie and a so-unhip-it’ship Snoopy T-shirt. Funny, smart and clever, James was the life and soul of any situation, the kind of person you want to be around. So, was it love at first sight? If feeling butterflies yet completely at ease and utterly yourself is anything to go by, then, yes, I suppose it was. The three-month project turned into an ongoing venture, and with every passing year my feelings for James deepened. Let me stress here that what I felt really was love: the romantic, pure, impossible kind, not just a made-up feeling or a crush that’s liable to dissolve. And with every look, laugh, comment and gesture that passed between us, it grew.
Well, it did for me anyway.
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