You've thought about the dress, the ring, the honeymoon. But what about the man? Is he marriage material? Time to find out!
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Flying solo
Do you feel comfortable being alone? While you're part of a couple, you're still individuals and need to feel happy on your own as well as with your partner. You need to have your own sense of identity. A relationship shouldn't hinder you as a person; it should enhance your individuality. You also need to feel valued, respected and appreciated by your partner.
You sexy thang
Is your sex life satisfying and something you can remain faithful to forever? “When the initial passion cools, you feel confident that you can accept the physical side of your relationship and don't feel you're missing out on excitement with other people,” explains Hirscheimer. Some people are okay with companionship without major sparks; some aren't. You both need to be on the same page.
War of the roses
All couples argue, but can you move on after the conflict with a clean slate? “Is there room to bring up difficult or thorny issues? Do you feel heard and respected when you do?" asks Hirscheimer. "It's important to not leave an argument with lingering resentment. Conflicts can be anything from who cleans up after dinner to who pays the bills. It is how it's resolved that counts."
Karen Hirscheimer is a partner with Morris & Hirscheimer Counselling, a Toronto based firm that specializes in relationship counselling and coaching services. Visit their web site at www.coupletherapy.ca or call 416-487-4411.
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