Dear Committed: Even the purest of diamonds can look flawed depending on which way the light hits them. So nothing is perfect; everyone has flaws. Your husband can't confess because he doesn't think he has done anything wrong; he isn't looking for forgiveness. He will never confess because he knows that you have no real proof, but you and I know that the doubt is there and it has flawed your view of your perfect husband. It's a painful and bitter life lesson, but you have learned, I hope, that you should never put anyone on a pedestal. I feel for you, but I also know that you can -- and will -- overcome this. You have a festering wound that needs healing, but your husband is oblivious to this because he is a very selfish person. Learn that about him. You need some tender loving care right now. My only worry is that over time, resentment will build up in you toward him. He has some big wakeup calls ahead of him! Start thinking about yourself: do things that make you feel good about you. The coming year will bring you new beginnings.