Avoid these relationship landmines and be a better girlfriend for it.
Sometimes we can't help it. We ask the question before even thinking about it and once we've blurted it out, it's too late to go back. Women -- albeit sometimes unknowingly -- set out relationship landmines. Could you be one of them? Check out the questions below to see …
1. Does this make me look fat?
Women are never looking for an honest answer to this question. Never. Imagine for a moment what would happen if your beloved actually turned to you and said, "Oh yeah, you better go change or else everyone's going to think you're pregnant." Men don't even notice your little imperfections; they just love the whole package.
2. Is she prettier than me?
You hear yourself say it and it actually makes you cringe. This question comes from a place of insecurity and low self-esteem. One thing to keep in mind when you feel this question come bubbling up from your stomach is that you're with him and she's not, so there's no need to stress about every girl who wanders into your man's field of vision.
3. How many women have you slept with?
Being open and honest about both of your sexual histories is essential in every relationship. But there's no need to know the exact number, it will just eat away at you. And men are similar in this way; they don't really want to know the exact number either. So maintain a little mystery and be discreet with this little (or large) figure.
4. What are you thinking?
That look on his face is probably just gas. Men don't have the same inner-dialogue women do and their natural response to this question is "nothing." To get more than a one-word answer out of your man, try asking a more specific question like: "what do you think about (insert topic)?"
5. Where is our relationship going?
Feelings, commitment, future?! If you want to get your guy running for the hills, bust out this little quandary. This question sounds pushy and full of hidden traps for men to fall into. Don't push the relationship to the place you want it to be, let it progress naturally and you'll be a much happier girlfriend for it.
6. If you could sleep with one of my friends, which one would you sleep with?
You've just stuck your guy between a rock and a hard place; there's no good way for him to answer this question. And if he's smart, he'll keep his mouth shut on this one. Maybe you're wondering what your boyfriend's "type" is or what features they're the most attracted to. But asking them to pick one of your friends they would hypothetically want to sleep with will just weigh on your mind every time you see that girl. It could end up damaging not only your relationship with your boyfriend but your friendship with whichever girl he chooses.
7. Would you run to the store and get me some tampons?
Your guy knows you're human and that you're not this perfectly put together girl all the time. But especially in the beginning, spare him from knowing about your bodily functions. Keep the mystery and romance alive for just a little while longer. The same goes for the question: "does this look infected?"
8. Do you mind if I go out for lunch with my ex?
Honesty and trust is imperative in every strong relationship. But if you have a completely platonic relationship with your ex then this shouldn't be a question, it should be a statement. Don't give him the chance to let his testosterone-filled male jealousy instinct kick in. There's no need to hide a friendly lunch with an old flame from your current one, but there's also no need to ask permission either.
9. If I died in a freak hair drying accident, how long would you wait before moving on?
Women love asking hypothetical scenario questions. Why? Because it gives us an opportunity to get mad and argue about something? Is everything so perfect in the relationship that we need to create something to argue about? If you actually did die then you would want your guy to be happy, even if it's with someone else and that's all you need to worry about.
10. (While holding someone else's baby ask:) How many kids do you want to have?
Ok, so your maternal-baby-loving instinct has kicked in but you don't need to open this can of worms all over him. Commitment scares most guys (especially in the form of babies), in case you haven't noticed. You don't want to have to baby-sit your squirmy uncomfortable boyfriend for the rest of the day after popping this inquiry, so just don't ask.
11. Can I come to guy's night this time?
His friend's like you, you like the same activities, you can drink beer with the best of 'em maybe it would impress your man if you could hold your own during guy's night. Wrong. A guy's night isn't the same as a hang out night with friends. This is a time for him be a Neanderthal, and burp and talk about latest sexual exploits -- the usual "locker room" stuff -- without any women around as a distraction (especially you). Every so often your guy needs to recharge his testosterone without you there as a silent reminder that he just spent an hour helping you paint your toenails.
12. Is that it?
Whether you're commenting on size or duration, there's no good time to ask this question. Never.
