In the game of love, can an expert really help you find "the one"?
I’ve always assumed that love would just happen to me. That’s what it’s like in the movies: Two people meet and they just know. And that’s how it was for me. The first time, it was a gentle, warming love that, in all my teen innocence, I thought would last forever. It lasted almost five years until, in my early 20s, I bolted into an entirely different kind of love — one that was so intense, it could terrify my heart to near stillness yet fill it with hope that it would fix everything wrong with me. Not surprisingly, it buckled within two years. But both of those relationships happened naturally. Girl meets boy in a bar (on a bus, at work or through friends) and it went on from there.
But for the past four years, despite the dates, flings and feels-a-lot-likeloves, I’ve remained single. It’s not that I don’t attract men. In fact, when friends ask about my love life, they do it in plural. (“Katie, how are your men?”) I try not to do needy or clingy, and I keep the fact that I live in a constant state of havoc and fall over a lot under wraps. But none of this is helping me extend things beyond the eight-day mark.
Clearly, I’m doing something wrong. So I decide to get serious and turn my love life over to the professionals — the vast network of dating books and relationship experts dedicated to finding “the one.”
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