Credits: ELLE Canada Source: www.kimkardashianwest.com
Happy Birthday, Saint West! It’s a big one.
The youngest member of the Kimye family turned one yesterday, and while the joyous occasion didn’t propel Kim Karadashian back onto social media, her family and friends stepped in to mark the occasion on the Internet with lots of photos.
Cue the awwwwws.
Kim’s BFF Jonathan Cheban took to Kim's website to share two “never-before-seen” photos of her with Saint.
Birthday shoutout from grandma.
In aunt Kourtney's arms.
Aunt Khloé had this to share on her website: "I can't believe how quickly time flies! Watching my little Saint grow this past year has been amazing. He's seriously such an angel and could not be more adorable. What a light he's been for our family!"
Milo Ventimiglia did pushups with Ellen casually on his back. Credits: The Ellen Denegeres Show Source: Elle Canada
In case you didn't get enough of
Jess Milo Ventimiglia during all your recent Gilmore Girls revival bingeing, you can now watch him give his best Mardi Gras party impression and act out that infamous pottery scene from Ghost courtesy of The Ellen DeGeneres Show.
Ventimiglia was partnered with the luckiest fan ever for a game of "Heads Up" where the category was, of course, "Bad Behaviour." Watch below as the two awkwardly attempt to act out different inappropriate "behaviours" together in front of Ellen and her audience.
And because Milo is just as impressed with his newly jacked arms as we are, he later lets Ellen lie on his back while he does some pushups, because why not?
ELLE Canada and Smashbox Cosmetics present the #ECMODELSEARCH17
Have you ever wanted to see yourself in ELLE Canada? Enter our ELLE Canada Model Search presented by Smashbox Cosmetics for your chance to be in the spotlight in an editorial feature PLUS be flown out to L.A. for a photo shoot at Smashbox Studios!
ENTER ON INSTAGRAM BY JANUARY 8, 2017
HOW TO ENTER:
1. TAG your Instagram images or videos with #ECMODELSEARCH17
2. FOLLOW @ELLECanada and @SmashboxCanada on Instagram
Three (3) finalists will appear in an editorial feature in ELLE Canada.
One (1) winner will receive a round-trip flight to Los Angeles, two nights' accommodation and a styled photo shoot at Smashbox Studios.
ELLE Canada Model Search 2017 Rules
The ELLE Canada Model Search is held by Les Publications Groupe TVA- Hearst Inc. (ELLE Canada) and Smashbox, collectively hereinafter named: the “Model Search Organizers”. ELLE Canada is the Sponsor of the Model Search. The Model Search runs on Instagram, from December 1st, 2016 –at 6h00 to January 8th, 2017 at 23h59 ET (hereinafter: the “Search Period”).
This Model Search is open to all persons residing in Canada of at least the age of majority in their province of residence. Participant can’t be under any modelling contract when entering the Model Search. The following persons are excluded: employees, agents and representatives of Québecor Média inc., of Model Search Organizers’, of their parent and affiliated companies, their advertising and promotional agencies, partners, suppliers of prizes, materials and services related to this Model Search, or any other party directly linked to the holding of this Model Search, or their brother, sister, children, mother, father, their legal or common-law spouse and individuals with whom such employees, agents and representatives are domiciled.
HOW TO ENTER
No purchase necessary. To participate in the Model Search, you simply have to have an Instagram account and enter the Model Search by posting during the Search Period your own photo and tag your images with #ECModelSearch17, @ellecanada, @smashboxcanada and include your age, height and hometown. If representatives from the Model Search Organizer are interested or need more information on you or your application, you will receive a "direct message" via Instagram from @ellecanada or @smashboxcanada. The fact that you have received or not a ‘’direct message’’ does not affect positively or negatively your ability to become the winner of the ELLE Canada Model Search.
Photos must consist of:
-Full body and Face
-15 second video is also acceptable (with full body and face)
You must respect the following limits, otherwise the Model Search Organizers reserve the right to cancel your participation:
You can submit as many photos/videos as you wish during the Search Period provided each are submitted in accordance with the ELLE Canada Model Search Rules;
You cannot submit photos/videos from more than one Instagram accounts, in the case you have more than one;
The Instagram account that you are using to submit your photos/videos must be public.
You are responsible for uploading/transmitting your picture/video for successful consideration during the Model Search Period in accordance with the ELLE Canada Model Search Rules. You must only submit picture/video that: i) are created, produced and developed by you; ii) are original work; iii) have not been previously published or be the subject of an agreement with a third party; iv) have not been considered for or won previous or similar search, recruitments, awards; v) does not infringe upon the copyrights, trademarks, rights of privacy, rights of publicity or other intellectual property or other rights of any person or entity; vi) have been created in a legal and safe manner by you; v) that are a representation of you (additional proof of identity may be requested by Model Search Organizers at their sole discretion if they deemed it necessary); vi) that have not been altered, modified or photo-shopped in any way.
You picture/video must not:
contain defamatory words/statements (including words or symbols that are widely considered offensive to individuals of a certain race, ethnicity, religion, sexual orientation, or socioeconomic group);
threaten any person, place, business, or group;
disparage persons or organizations associated with the Model Search Organizers;
invade privacy or other rights of any person, firm, or entity;
contain material that is in any way unlawful, in violation of or contrary to all applicable federal, provincial or municipal laws and regulations in Canada;
contain material that is inappropriate, indecent (including but not limited to nudity or pornography), profane, obscene, hateful, tortuous, slanderous or libelous;
refer to any person other then you or refer to any organization; and
be advertorial, promotional or relate to specific brand.
By participating in this Model Search and by submitting your photo/video, you hereby grant an non-exclusive, worldwide, perpetual, irrevocable, fully paid-up, royalty-free, fully sublicenseable and transferable right and license to the Model Search Organizers (and to third party duly authorized by the Model Search Organizers) to use the photo/video at their entire discretion, including without limitation (notably with respect of support, media, duration, language and territory) the right to edit or modify such photo/video for commercial or promotional purposes without any compensation whatsoever owed to you. You also waive all moral rights you may hold in or to your photo/video to the extent required for the license granted hereunder. Furthermore, by participating in this Model Search and by submitting your photo/video, you hereby authorize Model Search Organizers to use, at their entire discretion including without limitation (notably with respect of support, media, duration, language and territory), the content, in whole or in part, of any ‘’Direct Message’’ you are exchanging with the Model Search Organizers along with your age, height and hometown.
At the end of the Model Search, one (1) winner will be selected based on judging criteria to determine the top 15 finalists and a community vote to select the top 3 finalists. The winner be selected based on judging criteria and will benefit from the following prize, provided such winner is complying to the ELLE Canada Model Search Rules:
Round-trip flight to L.A. (economy)
2-night hotel stay
Photo Shoot at Smashbox Studios
Hair and make-up on set
(Value estimated at $10,000)
The following conditions apply:
The prize is not exchangeable and non-transferable;
The prize has to be accepted as it is;
If the prize or a portion of it is not used, no compensation will be given.
Dates are subject to changes.
On January 9, 2016 at the offices of ELLE Canada, located in Toronto, Ontario, a maximum of fifteen (15) submissions will be selected by representatives from the ELLE Canada team. Any representative can be replaced by other professional exercising similar functions or any other person deemed suitable at Model Search Organizers’ sole discretion. Submissions will be selected from all pictures/videos received during the Model Search Period provided they were submitted in accordance with the ELLE Canada Model Search Rules. When assessing the pictures/videos, the representatives will take into consideration various criteria from industry experts. Decisions of ELLE Canada, and Smashbox representatives are finals and binding.
On January 12, 2016, the selected maximum of fifteen (15) submissions will be placed on the website of www.ellecanada.com/ecmodelsearch and will be featured until January 19th, 2016 to determine the top 3 submissions, after engaging the public to cast their votes on the ELLE Canada website. The public may vote once a day for the duration of the Model Search. The selected maximum of fifteen (15) participants each agree not to cast fraudulent vote nor to encourage the public to do so.
On January 23, 2016 at the offices of ELLE Canada, Toronto, Ontario, the top three (3) submissions (such submissions being the one to have received the most votes between January 12th, 2016 and January 19th, 2016), will be posted on ELLECanada.com/ecmodelsearch for the public to see.
FINALISTS MUST BE ABLE TO TRAVEL JANUARY 25th – MAY 31st 2016.
Late January, 2016, the selected three (3) finalists will be contacted by an ELLE Canada representative to participate in a photo shoot in Toronto (exact date to be confirmed). Finalists agree not to substantially modify on purpose their personal appearance from the date they are contacted by the ELLE Canada representative until the date of the photoshoot. If a selected finalist chooses not to participate to such photo shoot (for any reason, including prior commitments), such finalist will not be considered for the rest of the Model Search. At the photoshoot, representatives of the Model Search Organizers will evaluate each model on various criteria such as ability to be creative in front of the camera, posture, radiant smile, creativity when engaging in pictures, natural ease when pictures are taken, ability to adapt to directions and instructions from photographer, general attitude and personality.
The winner of the Model Search will be the finalist who has the best evaluation from the Model Search Organizers representatives at the photoshoot. The winner will be announced on ELLE Canada’s Instagram page during the first week of March.
Each finalist agrees to the publication, reproduction and other use of pictures/video and all picture/video taken at the photoshoot and during the Model Search Period by the Model Search representatives as well at their name, address, voice, statements about the Model Search and photograph or other likeness without further notice or additional compensation, in any publicity, advertisement or other promotional or commercial use carried out by or on behalf of the Model Search Organizers in any media, current or existing, including print, broadcast or the internet.
In order to be declared the winner, you must abide to all conditions related to the Model Search. Finalists are not official until they are contacted by an ELLE Canada representative. All finalists need to read and accept rules plus sign a release form to be considered in the Model Search and eventually to be declared winner.
Failing to comply with one of the conditions stated in the section above or any of the conditions provided in these ELLE Canada Model Search Rules, the entry of the finalist will be cancelled without any liability to the Model Search Organizers whatsoever, and the second runner up from the photoshoot will be elected winner (provided such winner complies with these ELLE Canada Model Search Rules).
Verification. Pictures/videos are subject to verification by the Model Search Organizers, and participants agree to cooperate fully with Model Search Organizers in such respect. Any pictures/videos which is, as the case may be, incomplete, fraudulent, sent late, that does not bear the correct information will be rejected and will not be considered in the Model Search and Model Search Organizers shall have no liability in such respect, or in respect of lost, misdirected of garbled communication, printing, prizing or distributor errors.
Non-conforming entries. The Model Search Organizers reserve the right to disqualify any person participating in this Model Search or trying to participate by means contrary to these Rules or in a manner that is unfair to the other participants (e.g.: computer hacking, fake pictures/video etc.). Such person may be referred to the appropriate judicial authorities. Furthermore, Model Search Organizers, at their sole discretion, may subtract general votes from the public that are casted in a manner which is unfair to the other entrants.
Acceptance. Any prize must be accepted as described in the present Rules and as described in further descriptions provided by Model Search Organizers and cannot be transferred to another person, substituted for another prize nor exchanged in part. Prize is accepted “as is” without any warranty whatsoever.
Substitution. In the event where, for reasons not related to the finalists, the Model Search Organizers cannot award a prize (or part of a prize) as described in these Rules, they reserve the right to award a prize (or part of a prize) of the same or equivalent nature at their sole discretion.
Refusal to accept a prize. The refusal of a participant to accept a prize according to the terms and conditions of these Rules releases the Model Search Organizers of any obligation related to that prize towards that participant.
Liability – prize’s supplier. A participant who is selected for a prize recognizes that upon reception of the confirmation of his status as the winner of the prize, the execution of the services in respect to the prize is the sole responsibility of the supplier of the prize, in this case, Smashbox.
Liability limit – use of prize. Any participant releases Québecor Média inc., the Model Search Organizers and their parent and affiliated companies, their advertising and promotional agencies, their employees, agents and representatives from any and all liability for any and all damages that such participant may suffer from the acceptance or use of the prize. In order to be declared a winner, any finalist agrees, if required, prior to obtaining the prize, to sign a declaration form to such effect.Erreur ! Signet non défini.
Liability limit – running of the Model Search. Québecor Média inc., the Model Search Organizers and their parent and affiliated companies, their advertising and promotional agencies, their employees, agents and representatives are not liable for faulty computer components, software, or communication lines, relating to any transmission that is faulty, incomplete, incomprehensible or erased by any computer or network that could limit the possibility or prevent any person from participating in this Model Search and/or cast their votes. Québecor Média inc., the Model Search Organizers and their parent and affiliated companies, their advertising and promotional agencies, their employees, agents and representatives also will not be held liable for any damages or loss that could arise, directly or indirectly, in whole or in part, from downloading any Internet page, any software or any form and by the transmission of any data regarding the participation in this Model Search and the casting of the votes.
Modification. The Model Search Organizers reserve the right, at their sole discretion, to cancel, terminate, modify or suspend this Model Search and the Rules, in whole or in part, in the case of the occurrence of an event, an error or any human intervention that could corrupt or affect the administration, safety, impartiality or the running of the Model Search as foreseen in these Rules. In any case, the Model Search Organizers, their parent and affiliated companies, their advertising and promotional agencies, the suppliers of products or services related to this Model Search as well as their employees, agents and representatives cannot be held liable to award more prizes than those indicated in these Rules or to award prizes otherwise than in compliance with these Rules.
Impossibility to act – including labour dispute Québecor Média inc., the Model Search Organizers and their parent and affiliated companies, their advertising and promotional agencies, their employees, agents and representatives will not assume any liability whatsoever in any case where their incapacity to act would result from a fact or a situation beyond their control or a strike, lock-out or any other labour dispute in their establishment or in establishments of organizations or enterprises which services are used for holding this Model Search.
Liability limit– participation. Any person who participates or tries to participate in this Model Search releases the Model Search Organizers, their parent and affiliated companies, their advertising and/or promotional agencies, their employees, agents and representatives, from any and all liability for damages which such participant could suffer from participating or trying to participate in this Model Search.
Authorization. By entering this Model Search, any winner authorizes the Model Search Organizers, their partners and their representatives to use, if required, such participant’s name, photograph, likeness, declaration related to the prize, place of residence and/or voice without remuneration whatsoever and that, at their discretion and without limit as for the period of use, in any media and on a worldwide scale, for publicity purposes or for any purpose that will or may be pertinent.
Communication with entrants. No communication or correspondence will be exchanged with entrants in the context of this Model Search except as stated in the Rules.
Decisions of the Model Search Organizers. To the fullest extent allowed under the applicable laws, all decisions of the Model Search Organizers or those of their representatives regarding this Model Search are final and binding.
Identification of the participant. For the purposes of these Rules, the participant is the person who appears on the picture/video submitted and it is to this person to whom the prize will be awarded if selected and declared the winner.
Precedence. If an article in these Rules were to be declared or deemed illegal, unenforceable or invalid by a competent authority, then this article would be considered null and non-written, but all other items would not be affected and would find application in limits and authorized by the applicable law.
Rules Model Search. This is the official regulations and rules for the Elle Canada Model Search (the “Rules”) and these Rules are available on ELLE Canada Website and upon demand.
Non affiliation. This Model Search is not affiliated, sponsored, endorsed or administered by Instagram, nor is Instagram ,nor is Instagram associated with the Model Search in any way. By entering, you acknowledge that Instagram bears no responsibility for this promotion and you release Instagram from any liability whatsoever in connection with this promotion. You understand that you are providing information to the Sponsor and not to Instagram. Any questions, comments or complaints regarding the Model Search must be directed to the Sponsor, and not to Instagram. Instagram is a registered trademark of Instagram, Inc.
Personal information. The personal information collected on the participants of this Model Search are used only for the administration of the Model Search. No commercial communication or other, not linked to the Model Search, will be sent to the participants by the Model Search Organizers except if the participants have authorized the Model Search Organizers to send such communication or as allowed in the present Rules.
Credits: ELLE Canada Source: Getty
Why Brad and Angelina aren't the only long-term couple breaking up soon after getting married.
EVERYONE SAYS THE FIRST year of marriage is the hardest. Half a century ago, this made perfect sense – getting hitched meant big life changes: moving in, merging money and lifestyles, finally losing your V-card and getting pregnant right away. These days, at least in theory, marriage should be easier; three-quarters of us already live together, share bills and beds and are fully committed. Which, of course, begs another question: If you already have all that, then what exactly does marriage mean? Some say it’s just a piece of paper, a technicality with a tax benefit. If that were true, however, we wouldn’t hear those friend-of-a-friend horror stories: finally tying the knot and then watching said knot immediately implode.
This fall, it very publicly happened to Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie. After 11 years and six kids, Brangelina split just two years into their marriage. This is not a Hollywood-specific affliction for the rich and famous. It happened to three of my friends, including one I’ll call “Jade,” who is willing to share her tale. For 10 years, Jade and her fellow seemed just about perfect. “We were that couple – you know the one,” says the 33-year-old Torontonian. “Everyone said we were destined to be together.” He was her first love at 19, they shacked up at 25, and though there were no external pressures (ahem, pushy parents), a universal feeling crept into their set-up. “Soon I was turning 30 and I wanted to take the next step,” she says. “Even though deep down I knew I shouldn’t, I still wanted to get married.”
Her hesitation wasn’t because of a vague “bad feeling” or the universal “cold feet.” “Three months before the wedding, I literally threw my dress at him and screamed I didn’t want to marry him,” she says. It sounds crazy now, she admits, but big blowouts like this were the norm at their house. Despite outward appearances, Jade and her man hid big problems behind closed doors. They fought constantly about money, sex, communication, intimacy – and spent more and more time apart. Things were getting worse, not better. “I dragged him to counselling, but it was no help,” says Jade. (If their therapist thought they shouldn’t wed, she didn’t say so.) Yet getting married promised a solution. “When he proposed, I thought, ‘Okay, great, marriage means we’re really going to make it work.’ It proved to me that, despite everything, we were for real.”
It’s hard for outsiders to wrap their heads around it, and it’s all too easy in retrospect to recognize huge mistakes in the making, but situations like Jade’s aren’t uncommon. “There’s a distinct phenomenon behind this,” says Lucia O’Sullivan, a psychology professor at the University of New Brunswick who specializes in intimate relationships. “Research indicates that when people who have been cohabiting for a long time finally get married, it’s often because it’s seen as a solution to whatever’s not working in the cohabitation agreement.”
O’Sullivan says there’s statistically less stability in the first years of marriage, but it’s impossible to slap a number on breakup rates. Relationship statuses in Canada are getting murkier and more complicated to track – so much so that Statistics Canada stopped trying in 2008. Its last report found that about 4 percent of marriages break up after one year, 16 percent after two years and 26 percent after three years – the “riskiest year” of marriage, at which point the divorce rate begins to steadily decline.
“Many, if not most, of these relationships have some degree of difficulty before the marriage,” explains Gary Direnfeld, a social worker based in Dundas, Ont., who was also the host of Slice’s fittingly defunct Newlywed, Nearly Dead. The show’s late-night reruns showcase can’t-turn-away, this-could-happen-to-you-level marital collapses – some of the marriages just weeks old. He blames these disasters on a conflicting mix of old and new marital ideals. “Newlyweds are older now, they’re more set in their ways, less flexible and less prepared to compromise,” he says. “At the same time, they all have the old magical thinking that says ‘My partner should fulfill all my needs, read my mind and be forever compatible.’” This thinking has reared its head in O’Sullivan’s research too. “When you survey people these days about what they’re looking for in a partner, many will talk about a ‘soulmate,’” she says. “We’re looking for someone who’s completely in sync and fulfills every possible need for the long term and forever. We’re looking for a fairy tale, just like Brad and Angelina.”
Pressure to find a Brangelina-level love is enormous, as is the urge to display one’s love for the world to see. Social media makes this extra-easy, and Jade continued to present her engagement happily to the world. (“57 days until I tie the knot with this beaut. So excited!!!” she posted on Facebook.) Researchers from Northwestern University found that people who were insecure or anxious about their relationship were more likely to brag about it on Facebook. The same logic applies to the wedding itself. A 2014 study (aptly titled “‘A Diamond Is Forever’ and Other Fairy Tales”) from Emory University found that weddings that cost more than $20,000 are three and a half times more likely to end in divorce than those that cost less than $10,000.
Subconsciously or not, hesitant brides and grooms can let themselves be buried and distracted by an ever-bloating wedding culture. “The wedding took over, and I was so busy planning that I had no time to think about anything,” says Jade. Planning a wedding is inevitably stressful, even in the happiest of unions, but the deeper problems of on-the-rocks relationships can be dismissed as wedding stress and wilfully ignored. “Too often, people are afraid to talk about big issues for fear it will raise the tension before the wedding,” says Direnfeld. That tension and those problems aren’t going anywhere. “You’re really just saving them up for later,” he says. “This can mean your problems are actually exacerbated post-wedding.” Still, in the tense months before the wedding, “perception can triumph over judgment.”
For the record, Jade says she had “one of the best weddings ever – and I’m not just saying that because it was mine,” she jokes. She invited 50 guests to her cottage, renting all the nearby lodges. She wore a sweetheart lace dress with a train and adorably incorporated their three dogs. “It was a story we were playing that day. It was all false.”
The higher your expectations, the harder you crash back down to reality. All the problems you had before are still there but with the added pressure of “forever” weighing on them. And all those common-law years of practice might not be as helpful as you’d think. “The truth is, the longer you wait to get married, the more relationship baggage you bring into the marriage,” says Debra Macleod, a Calgary-based relationship and marriage coach who created a popular “Marriage SOS” program for newlyweds. She says there’s a distinct post-wedding comedown that she calls the “post-wedding blues” or a “honeymoon hangover.” “That’s when you get married and you’re so ridiculously happy but then you have to go to work on Monday,” she says. “There’s this feeling of ‘That’s it? Now what?’”
Immediately post-wedding, expectations of marital life often clash. “One person has been thinking ‘Once we’re married, things will be different.’ And the other person’s been thinking ‘Why should I change? You married me this way,’” says Macleod. Jolie filed for divorce for “the health of the family” – allegedly because of Brad’s weed and booze habits and because her parenting style is easygoing while Brad wants to raise the kids with a more structured, traditional family environment – but it’s very likely these issues were there long before. “A fast marriage breakdown like this may just have been two people who didn’t have the same expectations of what life after marriage should be,” says Macleod.
“I’d spent 10 years waiting for him to change,” says Jade. “The wedding was really my last effort to fix everything, but it didn’t work.” Stuck at an impasse, she grew increasingly miserable until she gave up four months later and moved back in with her parents. “I called my friend and said, ‘Please just tell me I lasted longer than Kim Kardashian!’” (With 139 married days, Jade beats Kim’s 72 days of marriage to Kris Humphries by a landslide.) Just like the wedding, this sad-seeming situation is not necessarily as it appears. Jade went back to school, made new friends and healthier habits and is in a promising relationship. “Now that I know what I don’t want, I can see exactly what I do want,” she says. With her new boyfriend, kindness, communication and consideration are deeply appreciated and flow both ways. The lesson took 10 years and an embarrassing failed marriage, she explains, but was worth it nonetheless.
HEADED (NERVOUSLY) TO THE ALTAR? ASK YOURSELF THESE 5 QUESTIONS:
Why are you getting hitched?
There is a wide variety of good answers here. There are also some distinctly bad ones, like: you need to get married, you’re terrified of being alone or you don’t feel secure without a partner.
Are you choosing between getting hitched now and breaking up?
This is red-flag city. Sometimes people get married to resuscitate a relationship that should actually end.
Have you discussed what marriage will be like with your partner?
Oftentimes these expectations are unspoken. If this subject feels too awkward to bring up, that’s a bad sign.
Are you anxious about the wedding or the marriage?
Weddings are stressful times, and having “cold feet” is common. Nerves over the catering are normal—nerves about the rest of your life might not be.
Are you hoping for change after the big day?
For some, that piece of paper means there’s no turning back and they’ll either make more effort or (more likely) less. But for most of us, things won’t change much.
This article originally appeared in the December 2016 issue.