The Dragonfly Inn. Image by: Gilmore Girls wiki Source: ELLE Canada
If the sleepy Stars Hollow is your vacation inspiration, have we got the place for you: these five inns will make you feel just like you’re staying at The Dragonfly. (Lorelai, Sookie and Michel not included.)
1. SUMMERSIDE INN BED & BREAKFAST Summerside, Prince Edward Island
The Summerside Inn Credits: Summerside Inn B&B
This charming B&B looks like it was plucked right off the streets of Stars Hollow. The gorgeous blue historic house is complete with stained glass windows and a front sitting room perfect for people watching – although we're not sure you'll spy anyone as entertaining as Kirk.
The bustling seaside town is equally as enchanting. Key attractions include the Harbourfront Theatre, a ton of historical sites and a lineup of festivals on the boardwalk. And as a bonus, if you want to pull a Lorelai/Wild moment and decide to take up hiking, the Confederation Trail passes right through town.
Rooms start at $120 per night.
The Summer room. Credits: Summerside Inn Bed & Breakfast
2. LADY MACDONALD COUNTRY INN Canmore, Alberta
The Lady Macdonald Country Inn. Credits: Lady Macdonald Country Inn
The mountains in the background are the only giveaway that you're in Alberta, not Connecticut. The front of this two-storey inn looks exactly like The Dragonfly (except for maybe the colour) and it has a living room that we’re pretty sure could have doubled for the Gilmore’s house.
Life in Canmore is all about the outdoors – it's located in Banff National Park – so think hiking, biking, skiing, wildlife. (Luke would love it.)
Rooms start at $145 per night.
The Lady Macdonald common area. Credits: Lady Macdonald Country Inn
3. HISTORIC DAVY HOUSE BED & BREAKFAST Niagara-on-the-Lake, Ontario
Historic Davy House Bed & Breakfast Inn. Credits: Historic Davy House Bed & Breakfast Inn
We don't ever find out where Luke and Lorelai go on their honeymoon, but the Historic Davy House with its lush gardens and gorgeous front porch would certainly be a romantic choice. Included with your stay is a gourmet breakfast made in a kitchen that Sookie would be proud to call her own.
And if you think the B&B is charming, just wait until you see the rest of town — not even Emily would be able to resist exploring the area's many wineries, food tours, local boutiques and the beloved Shaw Festival.
Rooms start at $159 per night.
The Davy House B&B kitchen. Credits: Historic Davy House Bed & Breakfast Inn
4. PHOENIX HOUSE BED & BREAKFAST Stettler, Alberta
Phoenix House Bed & Breakfast. Credits: Phoenix House Bed & Breakfast
This century home is the ideal jump-off point for all of the attractions in Stettler, including provincial parks, historical sites and community events like the annual Art Walk celebrating local artists. (Could you get more Stars Hollow?) For those looking for a loungey vacay, there's always the White Sands beach on Buffalo Lake.
Rooms start at $100 per night.
The Phoenix House living room. Credits: Phoenix House Bed & Breakfast
5. COLBY HOUSE BED & BREAKFAST Sydney, Nova Scotia
Colby House Bed & Breakfast. Credits: Colby House Bed & Breakfast
You may not be able to smell snow like Lorelai, but surely you can imagine how cozy it would be to stay at Colby House in the middle of winter. (I mean, the MacDonald room is so gorgeous with its antique furniture and fireplace mantle that you would think Michel had a hand in the decorating.)
Once here, you'll find that this seaside town has something for everyone: walking tours, a miner's museum, a craft & design center, and the world's largest fiddle. Taylor Doose would be so proud.
Rooms start at $125 per night.
The MacDonald Room. Credits: Colby House Bed & Breakfast
The cast of The Walking Dead.
Spoiler alerts ahead.
Steven Yeun, who plays Glenn on The Walking Dead, is having a much better 2016 than his character.
The actor married his longtime love, Joana Pak, in Los Angeles last weekend and, according to E! News, the couple is expecting their first child together. There's been no confirmation from the pair yet, but in the meantime, here's an adorable photo Yeun posted of his wife on Instagram on their wedding day.
Joana's sister also posted a photo of the happy couple.
"I really don’t let that stuff get to me."
In a new interview with Complex, Sofia Richie, daughter of music icon Lionel Richie, opens up about the challenges she has faced while working in the modelling industry. The 5-foot-6 model says she's often criticized because of her petite stature. "People obviously don’t respect some of the shoots I do because I’m short," she explained.
However the 18-year-old model she promises she doesn't let criticism faze her. "It’s not like I called and begged these designers to work with me," she says. "They felt my vibe and we were cool and that’s that. I really don’t let that stuff get to me."
Other highlights of the interview? Richie did not want to talk about Justin Bieber. Richie's publicist made it clear that "no questions" could be asked about the former fling. Sad face.
While the status of Sofia and Justin's romance remains unclear, one thing is certain. Right now Sofia is focusing on her career. "I'm super interested in having a fashion line which I am kind of working on, but I really love modelling because I get to be involved with clothes and designers. I get to hear them out and see what they're interested in. I'm kind of taking notes in the corner."
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Why Brad and Angelina aren't the only long-term couple breaking up soon after getting married.
EVERYONE SAYS THE FIRST year of marriage is the hardest. Half a century ago, this made perfect sense – getting hitched meant big life changes: moving in, merging money and lifestyles, finally losing your V-card and getting pregnant right away. These days, at least in theory, marriage should be easier; three-quarters of us already live together, share bills and beds and are fully committed. Which, of course, begs another question: If you already have all that, then what exactly does marriage mean? Some say it’s just a piece of paper, a technicality with a tax benefit. If that were true, however, we wouldn’t hear those friend-of-a-friend horror stories: finally tying the knot and then watching said knot immediately implode.
This fall, it very publicly happened to Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie. After 11 years and six kids, Brangelina split just two years into their marriage. This is not a Hollywood-specific affliction for the rich and famous. It happened to three of my friends, including one I’ll call “Jade,” who is willing to share her tale. For 10 years, Jade and her fellow seemed just about perfect. “We were that couple – you know the one,” says the 33-year-old Torontonian. “Everyone said we were destined to be together.” He was her first love at 19, they shacked up at 25, and though there were no external pressures (ahem, pushy parents), a universal feeling crept into their set-up. “Soon I was turning 30 and I wanted to take the next step,” she says. “Even though deep down I knew I shouldn’t, I still wanted to get married.”
Her hesitation wasn’t because of a vague “bad feeling” or the universal “cold feet.” “Three months before the wedding, I literally threw my dress at him and screamed I didn’t want to marry him,” she says. It sounds crazy now, she admits, but big blowouts like this were the norm at their house. Despite outward appearances, Jade and her man hid big problems behind closed doors. They fought constantly about money, sex, communication, intimacy – and spent more and more time apart. Things were getting worse, not better. “I dragged him to counselling, but it was no help,” says Jade. (If their therapist thought they shouldn’t wed, she didn’t say so.) Yet getting married promised a solution. “When he proposed, I thought, ‘Okay, great, marriage means we’re really going to make it work.’ It proved to me that, despite everything, we were for real.”
It’s hard for outsiders to wrap their heads around it, and it’s all too easy in retrospect to recognize huge mistakes in the making, but situations like Jade’s aren’t uncommon. “There’s a distinct phenomenon behind this,” says Lucia O’Sullivan, a psychology professor at the University of New Brunswick who specializes in intimate relationships. “Research indicates that when people who have been cohabiting for a long time finally get married, it’s often because it’s seen as a solution to whatever’s not working in the cohabitation agreement.”
O’Sullivan says there’s statistically less stability in the first years of marriage, but it’s impossible to slap a number on breakup rates. Relationship statuses in Canada are getting murkier and more complicated to track – so much so that Statistics Canada stopped trying in 2008. Its last report found that about 4 percent of marriages break up after one year, 16 percent after two years and 26 percent after three years – the “riskiest year” of marriage, at which point the divorce rate begins to steadily decline.
“Many, if not most, of these relationships have some degree of difficulty before the marriage,” explains Gary Direnfeld, a social worker based in Dundas, Ont., who was also the host of Slice’s fittingly defunct Newlywed, Nearly Dead. The show’s late-night reruns showcase can’t-turn-away, this-could-happen-to-you-level marital collapses – some of the marriages just weeks old. He blames these disasters on a conflicting mix of old and new marital ideals. “Newlyweds are older now, they’re more set in their ways, less flexible and less prepared to compromise,” he says. “At the same time, they all have the old magical thinking that says ‘My partner should fulfill all my needs, read my mind and be forever compatible.’” This thinking has reared its head in O’Sullivan’s research too. “When you survey people these days about what they’re looking for in a partner, many will talk about a ‘soulmate,’” she says. “We’re looking for someone who’s completely in sync and fulfills every possible need for the long term and forever. We’re looking for a fairy tale, just like Brad and Angelina.”
Pressure to find a Brangelina-level love is enormous, as is the urge to display one’s love for the world to see. Social media makes this extra-easy, and Jade continued to present her engagement happily to the world. (“57 days until I tie the knot with this beaut. So excited!!!” she posted on Facebook.) Researchers from Northwestern University found that people who were insecure or anxious about their relationship were more likely to brag about it on Facebook. The same logic applies to the wedding itself. A 2014 study (aptly titled “‘A Diamond Is Forever’ and Other Fairy Tales”) from Emory University found that weddings that cost more than $20,000 are three and a half times more likely to end in divorce than those that cost less than $10,000.
Subconsciously or not, hesitant brides and grooms can let themselves be buried and distracted by an ever-bloating wedding culture. “The wedding took over, and I was so busy planning that I had no time to think about anything,” says Jade. Planning a wedding is inevitably stressful, even in the happiest of unions, but the deeper problems of on-the-rocks relationships can be dismissed as wedding stress and wilfully ignored. “Too often, people are afraid to talk about big issues for fear it will raise the tension before the wedding,” says Direnfeld. That tension and those problems aren’t going anywhere. “You’re really just saving them up for later,” he says. “This can mean your problems are actually exacerbated post-wedding.” Still, in the tense months before the wedding, “perception can triumph over judgment.”
For the record, Jade says she had “one of the best weddings ever – and I’m not just saying that because it was mine,” she jokes. She invited 50 guests to her cottage, renting all the nearby lodges. She wore a sweetheart lace dress with a train and adorably incorporated their three dogs. “It was a story we were playing that day. It was all false.”
The higher your expectations, the harder you crash back down to reality. All the problems you had before are still there but with the added pressure of “forever” weighing on them. And all those common-law years of practice might not be as helpful as you’d think. “The truth is, the longer you wait to get married, the more relationship baggage you bring into the marriage,” says Debra Macleod, a Calgary-based relationship and marriage coach who created a popular “Marriage SOS” program for newlyweds. She says there’s a distinct post-wedding comedown that she calls the “post-wedding blues” or a “honeymoon hangover.” “That’s when you get married and you’re so ridiculously happy but then you have to go to work on Monday,” she says. “There’s this feeling of ‘That’s it? Now what?’”
Immediately post-wedding, expectations of marital life often clash. “One person has been thinking ‘Once we’re married, things will be different.’ And the other person’s been thinking ‘Why should I change? You married me this way,’” says Macleod. Jolie filed for divorce for “the health of the family” – allegedly because of Brad’s weed and booze habits and because her parenting style is easygoing while Brad wants to raise the kids with a more structured, traditional family environment – but it’s very likely these issues were there long before. “A fast marriage breakdown like this may just have been two people who didn’t have the same expectations of what life after marriage should be,” says Macleod.
“I’d spent 10 years waiting for him to change,” says Jade. “The wedding was really my last effort to fix everything, but it didn’t work.” Stuck at an impasse, she grew increasingly miserable until she gave up four months later and moved back in with her parents. “I called my friend and said, ‘Please just tell me I lasted longer than Kim Kardashian!’” (With 139 married days, Jade beats Kim’s 72 days of marriage to Kris Humphries by a landslide.) Just like the wedding, this sad-seeming situation is not necessarily as it appears. Jade went back to school, made new friends and healthier habits and is in a promising relationship. “Now that I know what I don’t want, I can see exactly what I do want,” she says. With her new boyfriend, kindness, communication and consideration are deeply appreciated and flow both ways. The lesson took 10 years and an embarrassing failed marriage, she explains, but was worth it nonetheless.
HEADED (NERVOUSLY) TO THE ALTAR? ASK YOURSELF THESE 5 QUESTIONS:
Why are you getting hitched?
There is a wide variety of good answers here. There are also some distinctly bad ones, like: you need to get married, you’re terrified of being alone or you don’t feel secure without a partner.
Are you choosing between getting hitched now and breaking up?
This is red-flag city. Sometimes people get married to resuscitate a relationship that should actually end.
Have you discussed what marriage will be like with your partner?
Oftentimes these expectations are unspoken. If this subject feels too awkward to bring up, that’s a bad sign.
Are you anxious about the wedding or the marriage?
Weddings are stressful times, and having “cold feet” is common. Nerves over the catering are normal—nerves about the rest of your life might not be.
Are you hoping for change after the big day?
For some, that piece of paper means there’s no turning back and they’ll either make more effort or (more likely) less. But for most of us, things won’t change much.
This article originally appeared in the December 2016 issue.