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What makes a relationship healthy?
Good sex or no sex: The verdict.
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DEAR JANN: I've been dating a guy for a little over a year. We have a lot of shared values, past experiences and interests in common. Simply being with him eliminates my stress. We also have great sex! However, the relationship lacks the excitement that I crave. I love him very much, but I don't know if he's "the one." We only disagree on a few things, but they are important issues. One is religion: he's religious and I'm not. And second, he opposes abortion, so he has some difficulty accepting the fact that I have had one. Another concern is that he lacks self-confidence and ambition. I'm not sure I can respect a man who makes less money than I do. Are my expectations unrealistic, or do you think I'm settling for second best? PICKY
Dear Picky: Well, I'm not sure what you're looking for in another person. Have you ever looked closely at yourself? Have you looked in the mirror lately and asked yourself what your good and bad qualities are? I bet you'd have a long list running in both directions. Nobody is perfect; nobody can fulfill every desire and need that we have. It starts and ends with us -- as individual entities. I think perhaps a separation is in order. I don't know if you live together or not, but I think you should take a break and really think about what you want. You may want to fill him in on your thoughts as well. He may have something to say that could sway your decision one way or the other. Love can grow with respect but, of course, both people need to want to be in the relationship. Our confidence grows with encouragement, not reprimands. Remember that. If you're not happy, you're not happy. Go forward.
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