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Relationship ruts
New girlfriends, mixing work with pleasure and lacklustre sex lives. All in a day's work for Jann Arden!
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DEAR JANN: My mother passed away suddenly last year, at the age of 64. My father was devastated, and we were all pretty choked up too. My brother and I have been gentle with him ever since she died, and we've both been supportive of the new relationship he formed with a much younger woman. (Although we both thought that five months was a pretty short amount of time to wait before getting into another relationship.) Recently my dad told me that he gave some of my mother's jewellery to his new girlfriend. I'm really hurt that he did this. I also feel that he's insulting my mother's memory by giving this woman gifts that he had given my mom. I also think these pieces should go to her children. I'm really furious with him. Am I overreacting? BLINGLESS
DEAR BLINGLESS:: You're not overreacting! You're right, that stuff belongs to you and your siblings. I doubt very much that your mother would appreciate that he's giving it to his new girlfriend. Grief has a strange way of infiltrating our lives; it can make us do crazy things. I think you should ask him to get the stuff back. Tell him how you feel and explain your position clearly, without getting angry. Staying calm will make your point much more valid. Don't forget to throw in a little forgiveness here and there ... he lost his life partner, that's huge.
DEAR JANN: I'm a single mom with four kids. I was having trouble with my teenaged daughter, so I arranged for her to see a social worker. From the first time I met him, the chemistry between us was amazing! I'm trying really hard to keep it professional, but I so badly want to get to know him. He is only able to help us for three months and then he will be gone. Is it okay to date him? CONFUSED
DEAR CONFUSED: Holy cow! This is a tricky one. Honestly, you cannot be involved with him until your daughter's counselling is done. Only then can you consider having some kind of relationship with him. This has to be about your daughter right now. She has to feel safe in her environment, and that means that her confidentiality is of paramount importance. She has to know that what she discusses with her social worker is just between the two of them. If you were to suddenly start dating him, it could negate any progress she may be making. Sorry, this is just my opinion, but I feel pretty strongly about this one.
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