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Shopping list for a healthy male
Can you spot a good catch? ELLE gives you a list of what to look for!
By Dr. Bethany Marshall
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If you are in the right relationship, it will feel reciprocal and mutual.
When you offer emotional support, is he appreciative? Does he give back surprising you with a special little something? Or remembering your favorite drink?
Do you feel that what he gives is as valuable and meaningful as what you offer? For instance, if you set aside a Saturday night, will he make an entertainment plan that is enjoyable for both of you? If your car breaks down, will he come and get you? If you have a problem, will he help you? Is he as devoted to you as you are to him?
Healthy relationships are based upon mutual give-and-take. And what is given and received should feel of equal value. If the only thing that you are getting out of this relationship is text-messages or e-mails, occasional plans, or the assurance that you won't be alone on a Saturday night, you are not getting what you need.
If he's the right guy for you, he will have good friends and you will like who he is when he's with them.
Whether he's at the bar, at a tailgate party, or running for political office, you are confident that he is the man you know and love, both with you and apart from you. When he's out of sight, he does not turn into somebody else. For instance, a player. Or a jerk. Conversely, when you include him with your friends, you know who he will be -- charming and engaging, enhancing instead of detracting.
Find out what he really thinks about a one-night hook-up, here!
Copyright © 2007 by Dr. Bethany Marshall. Printed by permission. Excerpted from the book Deal Breakers: When to Work on a Relationship and When to Walk Away by Dr. Bethany Marshall published by Simon Spotlight Entertainment, an imprint of Simon & Schuster, Inc.
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