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Red flags: When to call it quits!
How do you know if it's time to end your relationship? Read our red flag list and find out!
By Kimberlee Roth
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1. He has to fix his car this weekend (again!).
We all have busy lives, filled with plenty of work, errands and chores, but a guy who is invested in his relationship will find time to spend with you. Yes, it's that simple. If he's forever "too busy," he's showing you where you fall on his list of priorities.
Bottom line: His excuses start making excuses? Dump him.
2. You find pictures of your bikini-clad best friend on his computer.
Infidelity comes in many forms -- no pun intended. A lot of dilemmas on Should I Dump Him or Not? involve virtual flirtations and cyber-relationships. But this kind of "innocent" (at least that's how he might explain it) involvement outside your twosome can be just as damaging as an actual affair. And your best friend? It would be hard to imagine a legit reason for this one.
Bottom line: Buh-bye.
3. He "just wants to cuddle."
Problems in a relationship will follow you both into the bedroom, too. There's nothing wrong with a guy who wants to cuddle, but if that's all he wants, well...there's probably something going on that you two need to talk about. Don't assume he's cheating, though. He could be stressed out, depressed, experiencing the side effects of medication or feeling distant because of a problem you two are facing. Delicately broach the subject without accusing him of not satisfying you and see what you can find out.
Bottom line: Give it time.
4. He calls out someone else's name during nookie.
Hmmm, not a lot of excuses for this one, either.
Bottom line: Unless he gives a plausible reason even before his clothes are back on, adios.
5. He cheats...again.
Another common subject on Should I Dump Him or Not?. And while an affair -- emotional or otherwise -- can do serious damage to a relationship, it doesn't have to mean the end. According to much of the advice given on the site, if he is truly and sincerely sorry for the affair, willing to identify and address the issues in your union that caused him to stray in the first place and makes a commitment to earning back your trust, there may be some hope. On the other hand there's that old saw, "Once a cheater, always a cheater." How do you know if you've got a player on your hands? Pay attention to his actions and not just his words. If repairing what's broke in your union ain't top of his list -- and that doesn't mean through superficial gestures like buying you a nice gift or turning on the charm for a spell -- don't be surprised when he cheats again.
Bottom line: Then there's that other old saw: If the mule kicks you once, the mule is stupid. If the mule kicks you twice… Dump him.
Find out what he thinks about a one-night hook-up here!
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